"Documentary" review
Jun. 12th, 2022 09:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
which_chickWhat is a woman? Stupid bullshit video by Matt Walsh, idiot fuckstick.
Don't worry, I didn't pay for it. (TPB provided, as always.)
First off, the idiot fuckstick starts off with “What is a woman” and honestly I feel like idiot fuckstick could also have framed the fucking question as “What is a man” but idiot fuckstick didn't. Asshole. I am not the second sex and I WILL call people out for pretending like “man” is the default setting. Men have a broken shitty chromosome. They die off more as infants which is why there are like 106 boy infants born for every 100 girl infants. Men, if they are born with insensitivity to testosterone, look just like women. WOMEN are the default.
Intro of the twins birthdaying is super-duper gendered to the point that it hurts me to look at it. It's as if the only proper birthday for those foreign FEE-MOIDS was pink and tea party. Video says Walsh bought his boy a bb gun and that was “all the emotional support he needed” -- WTF, dude, that’s how you get a fucking school shooter. It’s wrong to deny emotional support to sons just because they have dicks and accessory-dicks (guns). A dick and a gun do not take the place of having decent parenting and if Walsh thinks "emotional support" begins and ends with a firearm purchase, he's dumb-for-real and not just dumb-for-the-documentary.
This mouthbreathing fuckstick acts like woman is some sort of foreign species and also as if all women only like girly things, like that’s the only correct way to be a woman and that there isn’t any other way for people to be a woman. FUCK HIM. FUCK HIM WITH A GIANT COCK SO THAT HE RUPTURES INTERNALLY AND BLEEDS OUT IN THE AMBULANCE BEFORE ARRIVING AT THE HOSPITAL.
“Delicate and pretty” – oh, fuck off.
FOR ALL OF HUMAN EXISTENCE WOMEN WERE UNDERSTOOD TO BE A CERTAIN THING. Mmm, hmm. But y’know, THAT WAS BULLSHIT AND WRONG YOU TWAT. Nowadays we know better and we’re also tryna DO better. Strict gender roles hurt men and women and also people who don't love either of those options. More Freedom For Everyone, damn it!
I would like to point out that when a person goes hard to define women by cramming all things "women" in a delicate pretty pink box and THEN proceeds to tell folks who struggle to fit the vast multitudes of themselves into that fucking delicate pretty pink box that they are not “real” women because “real” women is clearly all the stuff in the box BUT ALSO NOT ANY STUFF that isn't in the box, they may find that there are A LOTTA PEEPS feeling like the way they’re womaning or the way they want to be woman-ing is wrong and bad so they must be something… else. Bull dyke erasure is oppression. It is 100% OK to bull dyke and that is NOT a wrong way to be a woman.
So that right there is my problem the first. Quit being all “woman are a certain thing and they all like certain things and they all act one way.” Women are people in the same way that men are people. It's fucking 2022, we should not still be making this statement like it's revolutionary. Women behave all sorts of ways and they have all sorts of interests, skills, abilities, and tastes.
Secondly, and I do not know why this is something that needs to be pointed out, the VAST BULK of our interactions with OTHER PEOPLE in day-to-day life do not have ANY FUCKING BEARING on what is in their underpants. If you’re not fucking someone (or possibly healthcaring them for certain forms of healthcare), you got no business with what’s in their underpants. That is NOT YO BIDNESS.
When you are out and about in your day to day, you DO NOT demand to see anyone's genitals to "verify their identity"... cause if you do go around trying to be a crotch inspector, you go to jail for being a sexual predator of some sort. YOU ALREADY LIVE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT LOOKING IN EVERYBODY'S UNDERWEAR and also TAKING THEM AT THEIR WORD FOR WHAT GENDER THEY ARE. This is not some super-hard novel concept to wrap your head around.
I reiterate, YOU ALREADY TREAT THE VAST BULK OF PEOPLE AS THE GENDER THEY APPEAR TO BE PRESENTING. So, just... keep doing it? With kindness? And if you're not sure, you can always use a person's name or ask if they have pronouns that they would prefer you to use. Go forth, call people by the names and pronouns that they want to be called by, JUST LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN DOING YOUR WHOLE FUCKING LIFE.
A third time, for the slow of thinking. YOU ALREADY DO THIS FOR THE VAST BULK OF HUMANS YOU MEET. If you claim you cannot do this, you're just choosing to be an asshole when you meet someone who doesn't "pass" WELL ENOUGH TO SUIT YOUR STANDARDS. That is uncalled for and rude. YOU ARE NOT THE GENDER POLICE and it is NOT YOUR JOB to judge other people on the alleged quality of their gender presentation. Do your best to see people as the gender they see themselves AND IF YOU ARE NOT SURE OR GET IT WRONG, APOLOGIZE FOR FUCKING UP AND MAKE A GENUINE EFFORT TO DO BETTER GOING FORWARD.
People have feelings. Pronouns fucking don't.
Also if your objection is "I have known Steve as Steve since we were in grade school and it's super hard to start calling her Louisa" but you make the change from Helen Steele to Helen Thompson pretty easily when Helen gets married... you're being a fuckstick to Louisa ON PURPOSE.
All clear? Great.
Point the third. Wee little kids are frequently fuzzy on stuff like Is Spiderman Real? and Did you just have lunch with The Real Elsa or did you have lunch with an actress who is dressed up LIKE Elsa?. I feel like if you struggle with “real” and “pretend”, then maybe you are not fit to make permanent and irreversible decisions about your life. However, if you are a wee tot and you WANT to... wear the other clothes or play other games or have different friends or grow your hair out or put on makeup or whatever, go for it. If you want people to call you a different name, that's OK too. Use whatever bathroom you like.
There are many, many ways to be a person. Find one you want to pursue and pursue it… provided that you are not making permanent changes to your body just yet. All the behavioral things are OK, all the 'window dressing' for genders is OK for wee tots.
When does wee tot end? Definitely before sixth grade, but close to double-digit ages, I think. Call it nine or ten years old. I feel like a person should have a solid grasp of “real” and “fake” by double-digit age.
At this point it is time for real talk about permanent changes to one’s body. Again, I would counsel caution and patience rather than FULL SPEED AHEAD because at prepubescent ages there isn’t any sex on board. Like, orgasms are generally not a thing for ten year olds. That stuff isn’t… fun yet. A young person at that point might not have a great feel for what they would be giving up. I would LIKE to be more “YES GO RIGHT AHEAD” but… hormones have a fuckton to do with sex drive. They do. I didn’t appreciate how damn much until menopause, which was pretty recent for me.
When the hormones left, they ALSO took the entirety of my sex drive, my interest in having sex, my interest in masturbation, my ability to self-lube, basically 100% of my enthusiasm for the whole shootin’ match of sexyfuntimes alone or in company at which point I was “Wow, hormones are one hell of a drug”. At this point, I still want to want to have sex, but I don’t ACTUALLY want to have sex. That sucks and I’m sort of sad about it. But, more time for hobbies, so whatever.
Anyway, I understand why folks are more GO RIGHT AHEAD – high incidence of suicide, gender dysphoria, transitioning before puberty improves outcomes in terms of outwardly appearing as their target gender. But… I worry that people who say No Thanks before ever taking the goods for a spin or ever being hormonally-motivated into WANTING to take the goods for a spin may be making an ill-informed choice. Is it their choice to make? Yes, I think so. It's certainly not their parents' choice to make.
But also I think about a lot of the choices I made at, like, twelve. Had I been allowed to make serious life-changing choices at that juncture... well, let’s just say that outcomes resulting from that may not have been ideal.
I’m pretty sure I’m not on board with Full Speed Ahead medical stuff for anyone who isn’t double-digit ages.
I feel ... hesitant about medical stuff for kids who are 10 to about 16. Maybe... puberty blockers? And continue living/presenting as you see fit. Starting at 16, though, I can kinda get on board with "Do what you need to do to be comfortable in your skin." (For what it's worth, I am 100% an armchair observer on this and I do not make policy or decisions affecting any other person on this matter. I'm just trying to find out where I stand on it at the moment.)
I want people to be comfortable in their own skins. I want people to be able to live their lives as best they are able, for their maximum happiness and freedom. I am not sure how to balance that with making sure kids don't make irreversible medical decisions with life-altering consequences before they're old enough to drive a car or get a tattoo. But yeah, at sixteen I think you're probably grown-up-enough to know what you want.
Anyway, back to our stupid video. You mouthbreathing idiot, a woman is a person who says she is.
Defining a “woman” by what she does is bullshit. Take your DELICATE PRETTY PINK BOX and shove it up your ass. Women do LOTS OF THINGS, you fucking jackass. “Well, women can HAVE BABIES” and so all the childless and sterile people are men? Mmm.
Defining a “woman” by the parts she has is also some kinda bullshit. Lots of women do not have uteruses. For fucks sake, I do not have a uterus. I had it surgically removed when I was 37 due to massive bleeding and multiple fibroids the size of grapefruits. Some women have two uteruses. Also, some men have uteruses. Parts is not a reliable indicator of womanhood.
Defining a “woman” by what she wears is also bullshit. I am only woman when I wear heels and a skirt? Fuckitall, I ain’t been a woman for literally years and prior to that only on special occasions where my mom would have given me the side-eye if I hadn't complied. Mostly I wear jeans and sneakers and t-shirts. But, you asshat, this does not make me a dude.
A woman is a person who, when asked, asserts that she is a woman. A man is a person who, when asked, asserts that he is a man.
Many times, women have breasts and vaginas and uteruses and ovaries BUT NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE ALL THESE THINGS and there can be women who lack all of them.
Many times, women do a lot of the housework, cooking, grocery shopping, and childcare in the home. BUT NOT ALL WOMEN DO THAT STUFF AND SOME WOMEN DO NONE OF IT.
Many times, women wear makeup and do their hair and wear skirts and dresses to look pretty… BUT NOT ALWAYS. Some women do not wear makeup or skirts or dresses or give fuck one for looking pretty. It is 100% OK to be a woman who cares not for such things.
Throughout this bullshit video, I kept getting the feeling that the idiot fuckstick wanted to take the MANYs above and turn them into ALWAYS-es. He danced around the topic and took a 100% deductible trip to the Masai so that he could ask them his dumb what is a woman question but really what he wanted all along was for someone to say "Ok, dude, A WOMAN has breasts and a vagina and a uterus and ovaries. She gives birth to children and raises them. She keeps your house and does the grocery shopping and fixes the meals and keeps track of when you need new socks. She cares about her appearance and her figure and puts in the time to look like a lady."
Idiot fuckstick wanted someone to use their words to build the delicate pretty pinkbox prison. Nobody did, so idiot fuckstick came home again and his wife asked him to open a jar for her. Fuck me sideways. That's so fucking offensive that I. Can't. Even. (And yes, I get that SOMETIMES YOU JUST FUCKING WANT SOME SALSA FOR YOUR CHIPS but this was not that kind of jar opening. This was JAR OPENING AS *a thing*.)
I open my own fucking jars. All the time. There is nobody in my house to open my jars for me... so either I can get on with it or I can sit down and cry while my chips gently sog in the humidity. I feel like Matt Walsh wants me to eat plain soggy chips flavored with my tears or step to the plate like a Real Woman (tm) and marry a man to open my jars for me.
If the day came that all I was allowed was the contents of the delicate pretty pink prison where all the Matt Walsh Approved (TM) Women reside, I would fucking kill myself.
Don't worry, I didn't pay for it. (TPB provided, as always.)
First off, the idiot fuckstick starts off with “What is a woman” and honestly I feel like idiot fuckstick could also have framed the fucking question as “What is a man” but idiot fuckstick didn't. Asshole. I am not the second sex and I WILL call people out for pretending like “man” is the default setting. Men have a broken shitty chromosome. They die off more as infants which is why there are like 106 boy infants born for every 100 girl infants. Men, if they are born with insensitivity to testosterone, look just like women. WOMEN are the default.
Intro of the twins birthdaying is super-duper gendered to the point that it hurts me to look at it. It's as if the only proper birthday for those foreign FEE-MOIDS was pink and tea party. Video says Walsh bought his boy a bb gun and that was “all the emotional support he needed” -- WTF, dude, that’s how you get a fucking school shooter. It’s wrong to deny emotional support to sons just because they have dicks and accessory-dicks (guns). A dick and a gun do not take the place of having decent parenting and if Walsh thinks "emotional support" begins and ends with a firearm purchase, he's dumb-for-real and not just dumb-for-the-documentary.
This mouthbreathing fuckstick acts like woman is some sort of foreign species and also as if all women only like girly things, like that’s the only correct way to be a woman and that there isn’t any other way for people to be a woman. FUCK HIM. FUCK HIM WITH A GIANT COCK SO THAT HE RUPTURES INTERNALLY AND BLEEDS OUT IN THE AMBULANCE BEFORE ARRIVING AT THE HOSPITAL.
“Delicate and pretty” – oh, fuck off.
FOR ALL OF HUMAN EXISTENCE WOMEN WERE UNDERSTOOD TO BE A CERTAIN THING. Mmm, hmm. But y’know, THAT WAS BULLSHIT AND WRONG YOU TWAT. Nowadays we know better and we’re also tryna DO better. Strict gender roles hurt men and women and also people who don't love either of those options. More Freedom For Everyone, damn it!
I would like to point out that when a person goes hard to define women by cramming all things "women" in a delicate pretty pink box and THEN proceeds to tell folks who struggle to fit the vast multitudes of themselves into that fucking delicate pretty pink box that they are not “real” women because “real” women is clearly all the stuff in the box BUT ALSO NOT ANY STUFF that isn't in the box, they may find that there are A LOTTA PEEPS feeling like the way they’re womaning or the way they want to be woman-ing is wrong and bad so they must be something… else. Bull dyke erasure is oppression. It is 100% OK to bull dyke and that is NOT a wrong way to be a woman.
So that right there is my problem the first. Quit being all “woman are a certain thing and they all like certain things and they all act one way.” Women are people in the same way that men are people. It's fucking 2022, we should not still be making this statement like it's revolutionary. Women behave all sorts of ways and they have all sorts of interests, skills, abilities, and tastes.
Secondly, and I do not know why this is something that needs to be pointed out, the VAST BULK of our interactions with OTHER PEOPLE in day-to-day life do not have ANY FUCKING BEARING on what is in their underpants. If you’re not fucking someone (or possibly healthcaring them for certain forms of healthcare), you got no business with what’s in their underpants. That is NOT YO BIDNESS.
When you are out and about in your day to day, you DO NOT demand to see anyone's genitals to "verify their identity"... cause if you do go around trying to be a crotch inspector, you go to jail for being a sexual predator of some sort. YOU ALREADY LIVE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT LOOKING IN EVERYBODY'S UNDERWEAR and also TAKING THEM AT THEIR WORD FOR WHAT GENDER THEY ARE. This is not some super-hard novel concept to wrap your head around.
I reiterate, YOU ALREADY TREAT THE VAST BULK OF PEOPLE AS THE GENDER THEY APPEAR TO BE PRESENTING. So, just... keep doing it? With kindness? And if you're not sure, you can always use a person's name or ask if they have pronouns that they would prefer you to use. Go forth, call people by the names and pronouns that they want to be called by, JUST LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN DOING YOUR WHOLE FUCKING LIFE.
A third time, for the slow of thinking. YOU ALREADY DO THIS FOR THE VAST BULK OF HUMANS YOU MEET. If you claim you cannot do this, you're just choosing to be an asshole when you meet someone who doesn't "pass" WELL ENOUGH TO SUIT YOUR STANDARDS. That is uncalled for and rude. YOU ARE NOT THE GENDER POLICE and it is NOT YOUR JOB to judge other people on the alleged quality of their gender presentation. Do your best to see people as the gender they see themselves AND IF YOU ARE NOT SURE OR GET IT WRONG, APOLOGIZE FOR FUCKING UP AND MAKE A GENUINE EFFORT TO DO BETTER GOING FORWARD.
People have feelings. Pronouns fucking don't.
Also if your objection is "I have known Steve as Steve since we were in grade school and it's super hard to start calling her Louisa" but you make the change from Helen Steele to Helen Thompson pretty easily when Helen gets married... you're being a fuckstick to Louisa ON PURPOSE.
All clear? Great.
Point the third. Wee little kids are frequently fuzzy on stuff like Is Spiderman Real? and Did you just have lunch with The Real Elsa or did you have lunch with an actress who is dressed up LIKE Elsa?. I feel like if you struggle with “real” and “pretend”, then maybe you are not fit to make permanent and irreversible decisions about your life. However, if you are a wee tot and you WANT to... wear the other clothes or play other games or have different friends or grow your hair out or put on makeup or whatever, go for it. If you want people to call you a different name, that's OK too. Use whatever bathroom you like.
There are many, many ways to be a person. Find one you want to pursue and pursue it… provided that you are not making permanent changes to your body just yet. All the behavioral things are OK, all the 'window dressing' for genders is OK for wee tots.
When does wee tot end? Definitely before sixth grade, but close to double-digit ages, I think. Call it nine or ten years old. I feel like a person should have a solid grasp of “real” and “fake” by double-digit age.
At this point it is time for real talk about permanent changes to one’s body. Again, I would counsel caution and patience rather than FULL SPEED AHEAD because at prepubescent ages there isn’t any sex on board. Like, orgasms are generally not a thing for ten year olds. That stuff isn’t… fun yet. A young person at that point might not have a great feel for what they would be giving up. I would LIKE to be more “YES GO RIGHT AHEAD” but… hormones have a fuckton to do with sex drive. They do. I didn’t appreciate how damn much until menopause, which was pretty recent for me.
When the hormones left, they ALSO took the entirety of my sex drive, my interest in having sex, my interest in masturbation, my ability to self-lube, basically 100% of my enthusiasm for the whole shootin’ match of sexyfuntimes alone or in company at which point I was “Wow, hormones are one hell of a drug”. At this point, I still want to want to have sex, but I don’t ACTUALLY want to have sex. That sucks and I’m sort of sad about it. But, more time for hobbies, so whatever.
Anyway, I understand why folks are more GO RIGHT AHEAD – high incidence of suicide, gender dysphoria, transitioning before puberty improves outcomes in terms of outwardly appearing as their target gender. But… I worry that people who say No Thanks before ever taking the goods for a spin or ever being hormonally-motivated into WANTING to take the goods for a spin may be making an ill-informed choice. Is it their choice to make? Yes, I think so. It's certainly not their parents' choice to make.
But also I think about a lot of the choices I made at, like, twelve. Had I been allowed to make serious life-changing choices at that juncture... well, let’s just say that outcomes resulting from that may not have been ideal.
I’m pretty sure I’m not on board with Full Speed Ahead medical stuff for anyone who isn’t double-digit ages.
I feel ... hesitant about medical stuff for kids who are 10 to about 16. Maybe... puberty blockers? And continue living/presenting as you see fit. Starting at 16, though, I can kinda get on board with "Do what you need to do to be comfortable in your skin." (For what it's worth, I am 100% an armchair observer on this and I do not make policy or decisions affecting any other person on this matter. I'm just trying to find out where I stand on it at the moment.)
I want people to be comfortable in their own skins. I want people to be able to live their lives as best they are able, for their maximum happiness and freedom. I am not sure how to balance that with making sure kids don't make irreversible medical decisions with life-altering consequences before they're old enough to drive a car or get a tattoo. But yeah, at sixteen I think you're probably grown-up-enough to know what you want.
Anyway, back to our stupid video. You mouthbreathing idiot, a woman is a person who says she is.
Defining a “woman” by what she does is bullshit. Take your DELICATE PRETTY PINK BOX and shove it up your ass. Women do LOTS OF THINGS, you fucking jackass. “Well, women can HAVE BABIES” and so all the childless and sterile people are men? Mmm.
Defining a “woman” by the parts she has is also some kinda bullshit. Lots of women do not have uteruses. For fucks sake, I do not have a uterus. I had it surgically removed when I was 37 due to massive bleeding and multiple fibroids the size of grapefruits. Some women have two uteruses. Also, some men have uteruses. Parts is not a reliable indicator of womanhood.
Defining a “woman” by what she wears is also bullshit. I am only woman when I wear heels and a skirt? Fuckitall, I ain’t been a woman for literally years and prior to that only on special occasions where my mom would have given me the side-eye if I hadn't complied. Mostly I wear jeans and sneakers and t-shirts. But, you asshat, this does not make me a dude.
A woman is a person who, when asked, asserts that she is a woman. A man is a person who, when asked, asserts that he is a man.
Many times, women have breasts and vaginas and uteruses and ovaries BUT NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE ALL THESE THINGS and there can be women who lack all of them.
Many times, women do a lot of the housework, cooking, grocery shopping, and childcare in the home. BUT NOT ALL WOMEN DO THAT STUFF AND SOME WOMEN DO NONE OF IT.
Many times, women wear makeup and do their hair and wear skirts and dresses to look pretty… BUT NOT ALWAYS. Some women do not wear makeup or skirts or dresses or give fuck one for looking pretty. It is 100% OK to be a woman who cares not for such things.
Throughout this bullshit video, I kept getting the feeling that the idiot fuckstick wanted to take the MANYs above and turn them into ALWAYS-es. He danced around the topic and took a 100% deductible trip to the Masai so that he could ask them his dumb what is a woman question but really what he wanted all along was for someone to say "Ok, dude, A WOMAN has breasts and a vagina and a uterus and ovaries. She gives birth to children and raises them. She keeps your house and does the grocery shopping and fixes the meals and keeps track of when you need new socks. She cares about her appearance and her figure and puts in the time to look like a lady."
Idiot fuckstick wanted someone to use their words to build the delicate pretty pink
I open my own fucking jars. All the time. There is nobody in my house to open my jars for me... so either I can get on with it or I can sit down and cry while my chips gently sog in the humidity. I feel like Matt Walsh wants me to eat plain soggy chips flavored with my tears or step to the plate like a Real Woman (tm) and marry a man to open my jars for me.
If the day came that all I was allowed was the contents of the delicate pretty pink prison where all the Matt Walsh Approved (TM) Women reside, I would fucking kill myself.
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Date: 2022-06-15 07:45 pm (UTC)Anyway, the tactic of puberty blockers makes sense to buy time to make sure a younger kid is serious while they socially transition and talk to therapists and trans people and such. Once they start hormones, it's a slow process anyway, and they can stop and turn around if they need to. Puberty takes years.
One of my great coming of age moments was realizing that I was alone at home, and if I did not open the jar myself, I would not be able to eat jam for a very long time, so I kept trying even though it was hard. No jam has ever tasted sweeter. That experience helped me stay calm and get broken glass out of my hand later when there was nobody to help. (The glass was unrelated to the jam.)
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Date: 2022-06-15 08:24 pm (UTC)