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[which_chick]

I've been POLITELY reminded that other people can read what I write. Uh, yeah, that's sort of the point of having an LJ -- to have a place to talk about stuff where people with an interest can follow along with such details of my exciting life as I deign to present. The reason it was said, however, was not to highlight the obvious. You'd think that was what it was doing, but really, the comment was made to point out that I am, according to the reminder's expert opinion, again dancing on the edge of discussing things I should not discuss. *sigh* You know, it would really suck if people read my LJ for the specific purpose of gathering material to stir the shit in their own vindictive little dramas, not that anyone would ever do anything like that at all, ever. I'm sure glad that nothing like that is going on in these parts and we're totally were-pumas here.



At any rate, finding a balance between a public voice and a private voice is something with which I struggle occasionally. I really chafe under the expectation of others that they have any business telling me what I can and cannot discuss on what is, basically, my own fucking billboard. (Obviously, I should stay away from slander and such, but this particular kerfluffle wasn't about slander.) It chafes the hell out of me and I whine and then (this is the part that totally fucking drives me up the wall) I do what they want and cave to the pressure. Every time. It annoys the hell out of me that I do this. I'd really like to be able to be the sort of person who didn't have to *deal* with that crap, who could say things like Piss off. It's freedom of speech and not slander and I'll write whatever the hell I want to write. That'd be amazing. That'd be such a damn unbelieveable feeling of freedom. However, I am not that sort of person. I am the sort of person who back-edits entries (yes, I can, indeed, be my very own MiniTrue) when I get complaints from people so that I can avoid unduly ruffling feathers. Huzzah! Let us all marvel at the total lack of integrity on my part.

In light of the current complaints, I've retroactively flocked some stuff that will now not be visible to the general public. Honest to dog, general public, you make this more headache than entertainment too many fucking times and you're going to get nothing but absolutely harmless, boring, insipid memes for as far as the eye can see. Count on it.

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[cassandramorgan.livejournal.com]

This is the entire reason I went friends only. I always said I would never go friends only because I wanted the freedom to day things in public. Unfortunately, people are always "OH NOES! SUMONE SED BAD THINGS ON TEH INTARWEBS!" I hate people.

[which-chick.livejournal.com]

I have never really been a fan of the friends-only thing because I have people who don't have an LJ who read this to keep up with my life. Some of those people are my mother, my aunt SJ, my younger brother (has an account, isn't flisted), my aunt DL, and similar. My cousin San checks in occasionally. Brother-the-younger's wife apparently also reads the thing. A lot of these are people that don't get a day-by-day update of my life in any other format and who inexplicably still have something of an interest in what I'm doing/thinking/feeling. Go figure.

It pisses me off a lot that other people (Like the one to whom I NEVER EVER gave the damn address -- and, by the way, I know who DID give out my LJ address to that person and here's a heaping helping of fucking gratitude on that front, thanks. Way to simplify my life!) read this and then use it to grind axes in the real world. That's really pretty lame. However, I don't know what I can do about it other than try harder to vet the public entries and retroactively flock stuff when someone bitches. Going friends-only cuts out about half the people who read the damn thing and I'm not sure I want to do that just yet. *sigh* Y'know, this used to be fun.

[wootsauce.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's surprising to me how many of my relatives read my LJ. The self censoring gets annoying. Not that I'm a very public person to begin with, though.

[sara-merry99.livejournal.com]

This is precisely why I f-locked my LJ--so I could continue to say what I want to say without dealing with a lot of shit.

And no, I don't like it much either, but I like it better than the other options.

(And, if you remember, I did my time with my only public posts being boring, harmless, and insipid memes just to give the Watchers of my LJ something to look at until they got bored.)

[gwangi.livejournal.com]

I keep mine unlocked because I figure that anybody who reads it and gets offended by something I've written probably needs their skin thickened. If somebody can't handle my opinion of them (...not that I go around talking about other people very much, but still), they need to grow up and worry less about what the world thinks.

[cousin-sue.livejournal.com]

I admit to not putting my every thought on my lj because I never know who will be reading it.

Certainly I do not express my frustrations with Otakon there, because a lot of my Otakon acquaintances read the lj.

And who knows if any of my family ever decide to read it.

Feh.

[fooliv.livejournal.com]

I got the diktat from the homeplace a few months back that I *would* stop cussing in front of the family. This is my own fault for putting a detailed post on my sister's wedding last fall. Now cousins and relatives I barely even knew I had are aware of the damn thing, and are to be protected from my habit of occasionally swearing a blue streak.

Meh.